Moving Forward Past The Goal

I’m a little nervous.

This weekend I’m signed up to run a 10K. I haven’t been running as much as I should and I haven’t been watching my diet as closely as I should. It’s so easy to become misguided when there’s a great Mexican food restaurant on every block and a new gourmet cupcake bakery pops up daily!

So Monday morning I laced up my running shoes and forced myself to hit the track. My music on my phone wasn’t working and I was mad. I was mad that I hadn’t been working harder and now I was going to have to run in silence.

With all that silence comes reflection and the conversation with myself wasn’t all that positive.


“Why don’t you have more will power? Why do you still struggle with making good choices with food? Is it always going to be so challenging? Will I ever get ‘good’ at this? Will I ruin everything I’ve worked so hard for?”

There comes a time after you get to your “goal” when people stop telling you that you are doing a good job and that you look good. I knew it was coming and I knew it was going to be hard. Because comments like those gave me strength to do well….to continue working hard.

And I wonder, no I actually worry… do I have what it takes to keep this up – by myself?

I know I have to. I know it’s up to me whether I sink or swim. But there’s that girl that’s still 55 pounds heavier inside me and she says, “you CAN’T do it Jenn, so just stop trying…just GIVE UP.”

And when I hear her I know two things for sure:

1. I don’t want to be that girl again

2. This will be an on-going journey for me. I will struggle, sometimes more than other times, but I will have to work hard at this. For. Ever.

So running on the track Monday I worried that I wasn’t going to be ready for the 10K on Saturday. I thought maybe I would just run the 5K with my family and that would be ok.

But then when I finished one lap, I told myself that surely I could run two. And when I hit two, I told myself that I was almost at three. And then three laps turned into 4 1/2 miles. It wasn’t pretty….but I did it. And If I ran 4 1/2 miles on a track without music or people around to motivate me, that it’s possible that on Saturday I could run two more miles. It’s possible and that’s progress.

And while I was stretching afterwards…I realized that I needed to tell the heavier me who thinks I can’t do it to shut the hell up. That today I did it and maybe I will tomorrow, too. And I’m going to have to take it day by day like that for awhile. Because while I haven’t gained any weight on the scale, I don’t feel as strong as I did – so I need to rededicate myself to this journey.

And I’ve got today, this moment, to make a good decision. And then I go on from there.

I said my mantra several times on the track. I’ve got to remember to say it at other times too.

Be Brave. Be fierce. Believe.

Believe. Because I have to continue on this journey for me and my health and my future.

I can’t go back. I just. can’t.

Do you struggle with weight issues? Have you met a goal and regressed? What do you do when the positive comments stop coming from others and your forced with just the thoughts you’ve got running a muck in your own head and they aren’t particularly positive? 



  1. 1
    Brian says:

    Richard Bandler, the co-founder of NLP, suggested using this mantra whenever you get negative self talk:

    “Shut the f**k up!”

    Works for me. 🙂

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    Shannon Haubrich says:

    I fight with myself every day. There are so many things I want to change about myself. The two biggest being having the gumption to sell my creations and losing weight. For me it all boils down to self esteem. I am not sure how mine got so broken. Years of health issues have created huge insecurities with my appearance. I used to be a stick, now I would be happy to not feel like a giant blob all the time. Faith in my creative abilities has taken a hit right along with my appearance issues. I hate feeling like I’m being judged and, if you put my issues together, that’s exactly the feeling I get.

    Keep it up Jenn! Watching you conquer the negative is inspiring. You got this!!!

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    Hey Jenn! This post is just what I needed as I sit here and mentally argue with myself about if I should go for a run at the gym during my lunch break. Way to keep going, one lap at a time. It is hard to stay committed but so worth it in the end. I hope you have a great race this Saturday!

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      Jennifer Patrick says:

      You are such a great motivator to me! Sometimes I need a literal (or virtual) shove out the door! I’m going to give you a shout when I do! Hugs!!

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    Jennifer Patrick says:

    Sarah is a rock star and my heart is so happy to read this post this morning. Go visit her blog today.…%29 You’ll love it (and her!)


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